I’m not a fan of Donald Glover, also known by his musical name Childish Gambino, although I recognize that he has talent. Still, it would be dishonest to claim that I didn’t enjoy the track “Redbone from Glover’s 2016 album “Awaken, My Love!”
That’s the extent of my props for Glover. In any case, I recently listened to an electronic dance music (EDM) set from Singhara which featured a remix to Glover’s song, entitled “Redbone (Kevin McKay extended remix),” presented by Travis Emmons and remixed by Kevin McKay.
I enjoy the remix quite a bit and I’d forgotten a line from “Redbone” that states, “You better believe in something.” There are two points worth briefly exploring in regard to that quote.
First, in Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), a recommendatory should belief is a statement that occurs when someone helpfully states that another person should, must, or ought to do something. Stating that a person “better” do something is a derivative of this type of belief.
This is different from unhelpful demandingness which uses absolutistic or conditional should beliefs that serve a more rigid purpose. Perhaps an example will elucidate the distinctions between these types of beliefs or statements.
Suppose that I say to you, “If you want to live, then you better not consume poison.” Here, I’m recommending that you shouldn’t ingest poison, because doing so may not be beneficial to your health.
However, you’re a self-determined and autonomous individual. Thus, you’re free to do as you please. Therefore, my use of “better” in that statement isn’t an absolutistic demand which you must obey. Likewise, I didn’t issue an inflexible condition that ought to be obeyed, or else!
Second, I’m reminded of a blogpost I once wrote entitled Preacher, in which I advocated the need for belief in regard to the practice of REBT. Here, “need” serves as an empirical should belief or statement.
Perhaps it doesn’t surprise you to know that REBT recognizes a number of helpful should beliefs, such as an empirical should statement. The term “empirical” is defined as relying on experience or observation alone often without due regard for system and theory.
When stating that someone needs to or better believe in REBT, I’m expressing that based on my professional experience it’s beneficial to believe in the psychotherapeutic modality one practices than not to believe in it while simply going through the motions.
The two points expressed herein are what I thought of when hearing “Redbone (Kevin McKay extended remix).” Now, I offer these points of consideration to you.
If you want to practice the finer points of REBT which are addressed in my blog, you better believe in something – like how REBT may benefit your life. Otherwise, you’ll probably waste the little time you have remaining in this life. Thus, you recommendatorily better choose wisely.
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Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW
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