On the 2001 album Rooty, electronic dance music (EDM) duo Basement Jaxx released a song entitled “Where’s your head at”? Lyrics include:
Don’t let the walls cave in on you
We can live on, live on without you
Don’t let the walls cave in on you
We can live on, live on without you
Don’t let the walls cave in on you
You get what you give, that much is true
Don’t let the walls cave in on you
You turn the world away from you
Where’s your head at (Where’s your head at)
Where’s your head at (Where’s your head at)
Wasn’t that? Okay, are you ready? I’m ready
You have now found yourself trapped in the incomprehensible maze
Where’s your head at, you’ll know how to be
Where’s your head at, you don’t make it easy on yourself
Where’s your head at, what you give is what you get, is what you get
Where’s your head at (Where’s your head at)
Where’s your head at (Where’s your head at (Okay, are you ready? I’m ready)
I enjoyed dancing to the track at a time when I did that sort of thing. Now, I think of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) and how the song remains relevant—even though I no longer sweat through the night on a faraway dancefloor when listening to it.
In particular, I appreciate the aspect of questioning oneself as a means of maneuvering the incomprehensible maze in which one may inevitably become trapped during moments of emotional dysregulation. Who hasn’t been there?
Some event occurs and it seems as though you’re suddenly transported to an unpleasant entanglement of emotions, bodily sensations, and behavioral reactions. This is the action-consequence connection I used to think happened during distressing situations.
I’d become lost in emotion, not making things easy for myself. Now that I practice REBT, I understand that it never was the dizzying result of events which I experienced that bothered me. Rather, there was a belief-consequence connection at play.
Using the ABC Model, something would happen (Action), I assumed something about the event (Belief), and because of my unhelpful conclusion I’d experience feelings (emotions and sensations) and behave in a particular manner (Consequence).
If it seemed as though the walls were caving in on me, it was because my head was trapped in a labyrinth of irrational beliefs. Back in those days, I didn’t know where my head was at. Now, I do.
Sometimes, I may not be aware of what unproductive belief is present when experiencing a situation (Action). What I may be aware of is a bodily sensation, such as holding my breath, or an emotional experience akin to anxiousness (Consequence).
During such times, I find it helpful to ask myself, “Where’s your head at?” With this prompt, I can explore what self-disturbing conviction (Belief) is present.
Then, I can dispute the unfavorable thing I regard as true so that I may arrive at an Effective new belief. As a formula, here’s how the process looks:
Action + Belief = Consequence ÷ Disputation = Effective new belief
The next time you become inundated with stress, it may be useful to stop and ask yourself where you head is at. If you can identify the unaccommodating belief, you can challenge it in order to resolve an unpleasant result of the bewildering assumption.
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References:
Basement Jaxx. (2012, February 21). Basement Jaxx – Where’s Your Head At (official video) [Video]. YouTube. Retrieved from https://youtu.be/5rAOyh7YmEc?si=xaakNsGciXKzyQU2
Hollings, D. (n.d.). Blog – Categories: Disputation. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/blog/categories/disputation
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Hollings, D. (2022, November 9). The ABC model. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/the-abc-model
Hollings, D. (2022, December 23). The A-C connection. Hollings Therapy, LLC. Retrieved from https://www.hollingstherapy.com/post/the-a-c-connection
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Wikipedia. (n.d.). Basement Jaxx. Retrieved from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Basement_Jaxx
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