It’s been a bit since I posted a blog entry specifically about death. Likewise, it’s been a moment since I posted an entry that didn’t take more than five minutes to read. Therefore, I’m challenging myself to push through my usual routine and presently remedy both of these issues.
In 2008, English DJ and production duo CamelPhat, as Whelan & Di Scala, released the electronic dance music (EDM) track “Outta Time” that featured the vocals of Abigail Bailey. I prefer the “Outta Time (Jim Rivers remix)” version of the track.
Unlike the former version that contains more vocal content, the latter remix uses a to-the-point message “outta time.” This phrase could be applied to many situations. Herein, I’ll provide two examples.
For the first example, I’m reminded of a recent rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT) session with a client who sought psychotherapeutic services in relation to bereavement. Initially, this individual reported believing that we would talk about positivity in order to ease suffering.
This is understandable, given how mental, emotional, and behavioral health care is represented on social media platforms which the client is said to use. Presumably, focusing on positive elements of life will relieve one’s negative experience with death.
This makes sense in the interest of catharsis—the process of releasing and thereby providing relief from suppressed or repressed emotions. However, unlike other psychotherapeutic modalities, REBT aims to help people get better and not merely to feel better.
Positive thinking may result in a cathartic effect, thus relieving unpleasant emotions such as sorrow and anger associated with the death of a loved one. Yet, that effect is short-lived. As such, I find little utility in positivity for the sake of positive emotions.
This is because not long after a session a person may revert back to a state of discomfort which is caused by irrational beliefs about death and dying. Therefore, rather than avoiding discussion of unhealthy and healthy negative emotions; I invited the client to lean into this topic.
In this way, I used an existential approach to the issue – not “problem” – of death. There’s no need to pathologize the matter of death. It’s as natural as the process of living.
In fact, every person that lives will inevitably die. That’s a pretty normal condition, if you ask me. And although you may not have asked for my perspective, the aforementioned client did. In fact, the person pays me for my outlook which is framed through an REBT lens.
Thus, after a number of sessions the client began a recent appointment by declaring, “Thanks to you, I’m thinking more about death.” This was said with a smile on the client’s face and expressed gratitude for helping this person to actually get better.
I’d like to share with you a second example relating to CamelPhat’s song “Outta Time.” However, I’m outta time. If you didn’t get the intended message of this post (we all die!), I invite you to re-read it and digest its meaning before you run outta time.
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Deric Hollings, LPC, LCSW
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