I recently listened to a DJ set spun by Kosmovsky that featured the track “Out of Your Mind” by Marie Vaunt and Tao Andra. Lyrics include, “Out of your mind, gonna hit it [have sexual intercourse] one more time. You’re out of your mind; I’ll take you for a ride [sexual relations].”
Throughout my life, I’ve heard the expression “out of your mind” which is an idiomatic phrase that suggests one is mentally unsound—usually used informally and in an exaggerated way. As an example, “I can’t believe you did that! You’re out of your mind!”
Assessing this saying through the lens of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), I think of the ABC model and how the process of self-disturbance is like an individual being out of one’s mind through use of thinking which is illogical and unreasonable (collectively “irrational”).
REBT theory maintains that when an unexpected Action occurs and a person uses an irrational Belief about the situation, it’s one’s unhelpful attitude and not the undesirable circumstance that causes unpleasant cognitive, emotive, sensational, and behavioral effects as Consequences.
As an example, person X terminates an intimate partner relationship with person Y, though they continue having sexual relations. When hearing about this matter [Action], person Y’s close friend, person Z, self-disturbs when using an unfavorable self-narrative.
Person Z Believes, “Person Y is out of her mind for letting person X hit it one more time, because she should have more self-respect than that!” With this demandingness Belief, person Z then experiences frustration and disappointment (Consequence).
Rather than remaining self-disturbed, an individual is invited to try Disputation which may lead to an Effective new belief that’s used in place of an unproductive self-narrative. With the ABC model, a person learns to stop needless suffering which is caused by unhelpful assumptions.
Although it may be plausible that person Y isn’t using logical or reasonable judgement, it’s also the case that person Z is out of her mind when self-disturbing with an unproductive assumption about person Y’s behavior. Besides, person Y wants to take person X for a ride. It’s her choice.
Given this relatively brief example of how the ABC model works, what do you think about the process of self-disturbance whereby people upset themselves with unaccommodating beliefs? If you’d like to know more about how the process of un-disturbing oneself occurs, I’m here to help.
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